In My Middle - Comments

mike comments on today is the day

mike — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 22:34:19 +0000

let me know if you want any strategies for anything in particular. I know about stuff like that.

paula comments on so

paula — Sun, 31 Jan 2010 04:41:16 +0000

i'm excited for you about homeschooling douglas, somehow. hope that it's a truly wonderful experience for both of you.

Bethany comments on so

Bethany — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 18:41:59 +0000

not at all, though that does often seem to happen. i certainly don't believe that it's necessary.

mike comments on so

mike — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 11:13:57 +0000

umm, you're not going to expand that to say "It's not a worthwhile endeavour unless it hurts" are you?

Bethany comments on btw

Bethany — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 23:02:02 +0000

wedje: i've mocked back, generally infuriates him, not sure if it really works or not. i suck at not reacting, good to try.
mike: yes it's possible he's mocking something he finds it impossible to take seriously. to someone already raw with guilt, tone is especially critical. i've never doubted your heart or intentions, or your ability to see truth.
i'm more raw right now in general than i think i've ever been. makes for some fun times for all.

mike comments on btw

mike — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 00:09:49 +0000

so, the idea that the kid might be mocking something he finds it impossible to take seriously is just irritating, and beneath consideration?

Wedje comments on btw

Wedje — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:26:14 +0000

oh looky! solomon decides to chirp up and offer his two cents. you know, solomon could speak more than one language. and had many, many, too many wives. and a really big house.

wait! this is bethany's blog. bother. must leave.

Wedje comments on btw

Wedje — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:24:30 +0000

oooooh. i really like the way this blog is going.

so if mine started mocking (which happens), i might have a gasket or two blow and definitely not deal with it kindly which just compounds the problem. and results in me beating myself up later on. that being said, if i took a moment to breath (i usually breath after the fact though), i might also choose to mock the mocking. gives a taste and weirdly adjusts the mockers perspective - and boy! can i get into it. totally ignoring it and moving forward, unshakingly toward a goal also might also work - 'cause the mocker is usually just looking for a reaction...while indirectly communicating an underlying issue of some sort...which you get to decipher or not...'cause you got most of the insight...even though you may not feel that you do. a couple alternatives to consider if the whole discipline thing h'ain't workin'.

you know - i have decided that i loathe giving alternatives. but you seemed a wee bit stuck. but it's hard to offer things without it coming across as patronizing, asshole'ish, or some kind of crap like that. and you weren't really asking...seemed to be mainly venting and sharing...thank you...so i shall stop and no longer offer alternatives...unless asked. the end. :) have a LOVELY day.

solomon comments on btw

solomon — Wed, 13 Jan 2010 18:17:55 +0000

Besides, you want those ravens to get bored and the young eagles to starve to death?

paula comments on btw

paula — Tue, 12 Jan 2010 05:06:14 +0000

no comment on the above comments!

i discovered that my husband is resistant towards being asked to pray too much on a routine, for example at EVERY meal, or something like that. he has high standards for it being genuine, rather than ritual, something i've enjoyed being challenged on.

i always enjoyed the prayers we shared at your house. they felt sincere and spontaneous.